She enters a
room and is alone, but she is happy. Another girl enters a different room, where there are a few people in it, but this girl feels absolutely lost, anxious and
disconnected with everything around her.
room and is alone, but she is happy. Another girl enters a different room, where there are a few people in it, but this girl feels absolutely lost, anxious and
disconnected with everything around her.
How can that be? Its a typical, happy, social situation, right?
Guess Not!
Psychologically these two girls are experiencing very
different emotions. One girl is just ‘physically alone’ but the other is
experiencing ‘psychological’ and ‘emotional’ signs which are very hazardous to
health.
What is about loneliness that drains a person
so much? Why is happiness so difficult to attain or rather to sustain?
so much? Why is happiness so difficult to attain or rather to sustain?
Loneliness
is a complex and rather unpleasant emotional response to being alone- or rather
being isolated or in a constant lack of contact between the society and other
individuals. There are many different reasons why a person could feel lonely
and it could all be a mixture of social, emotional, mental and physical
factors.
is a complex and rather unpleasant emotional response to being alone- or rather
being isolated or in a constant lack of contact between the society and other
individuals. There are many different reasons why a person could feel lonely
and it could all be a mixture of social, emotional, mental and physical
factors.
“When you’re surrounded
by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you’re by yourself. You can
be in a huge crowd, but if you don’t feel like you can trust anyone or talk to
anybody, you feel like you’re really alone.”
by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you’re by yourself. You can
be in a huge crowd, but if you don’t feel like you can trust anyone or talk to
anybody, you feel like you’re really alone.”
We all have the
need to connect with other people but most often; many of us go home alone. Of
course there can be many positive people surrounding you throughout the day or
you could even be in a lifelong marriage but that deep, pervasive itch of
loneliness may still be there.
need to connect with other people but most often; many of us go home alone. Of
course there can be many positive people surrounding you throughout the day or
you could even be in a lifelong marriage but that deep, pervasive itch of
loneliness may still be there.
Loneliness
has been a topic of concern for many years and decades. Just stop and think
about it, for a minute; we are constantly, desiring, more positive experiences
and that itself is a negative experience.
has been a topic of concern for many years and decades. Just stop and think
about it, for a minute; we are constantly, desiring, more positive experiences
and that itself is a negative experience.
“Let me tell you this:
if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy
solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and
people continue to disappoint them.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy
solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and
people continue to disappoint them.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
This is
exactly what Alan Watts’s, the philosopher had used to refer to the backward
law.- an idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time the less
satisfied you become; as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you
lack it in the first place. It has always been of concern to the society, “how
to be lead a happy life”, “how to strengthen intimate bonds, etc.
exactly what Alan Watts’s, the philosopher had used to refer to the backward
law.- an idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time the less
satisfied you become; as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you
lack it in the first place. It has always been of concern to the society, “how
to be lead a happy life”, “how to strengthen intimate bonds, etc.
A lot of
research has been conducted about loneliness and has even been described as a
‘social pain’ where it is referred to as a psychological mechanism that is in
fact meant to motivate an individual to seek out social connections. If we were
to rephrase this it would be the unpleasant
experience that occurs when a person’s network of social relations is deficient
in some important way.
research has been conducted about loneliness and has even been described as a
‘social pain’ where it is referred to as a psychological mechanism that is in
fact meant to motivate an individual to seek out social connections. If we were
to rephrase this it would be the unpleasant
experience that occurs when a person’s network of social relations is deficient
in some important way.
There is a lot to talk
about loneliness as it is very often miscontrued to being ‘alone’ or ‘being
socially isolated’. When we talk about the feeling of loneliness we refer to
the the necessary and achieved levels of social interaction; while the later
refers to the lack of contact with people. The whole experience of loneline can
be a very subjective experience for a person to go through.
about loneliness as it is very often miscontrued to being ‘alone’ or ‘being
socially isolated’. When we talk about the feeling of loneliness we refer to
the the necessary and achieved levels of social interaction; while the later
refers to the lack of contact with people. The whole experience of loneline can
be a very subjective experience for a person to go through.
There are severe
affects of loneliness on a person’s mental health and well-being. Besides
erratic sleep quality, a person suffering from loneliness can fall into deep
depression and even be at a risk of suicide. For others, there are
possibilities of becoming antisocial, self-destructive, hostile, aggressive,
experience social alienation and all of this can leave negative impacts on the
memory and learning abilities of th person.
affects of loneliness on a person’s mental health and well-being. Besides
erratic sleep quality, a person suffering from loneliness can fall into deep
depression and even be at a risk of suicide. For others, there are
possibilities of becoming antisocial, self-destructive, hostile, aggressive,
experience social alienation and all of this can leave negative impacts on the
memory and learning abilities of th person.
In order to get the
appropriate treatment it is important to understand why you or the person is
suffering from loneliness. There are many different reasons. Some of them could
be:
appropriate treatment it is important to understand why you or the person is
suffering from loneliness. There are many different reasons. Some of them could
be:
- New situation
loneliness– where a person has either just moved to a new city or started a new
job and they don’t know anyone. - I’m
Different loneliness: You perhaps feel very different from the people around
you. Sometimes it is very hard to connect with other people especially when you
don’t share common likings. - No-sweetheart
Loneliness: You may have a wonderful
family and a good set of friends, but if you don’t have the intimate attachment
of a romantic partner, you could feel lonely. Maybe you do have a partner but
you don’t feel the deep connection anymore. This can be extremely stressful and
a person can be very lonely within. - No animal
loneliness: Pets can sometimes be your best friends and people have a lot of
attachment towards them. If there is a situation in life where you cannot have
the ‘pet’ or animal’ it can lead to a lot of traumatic feelings and feelings of
loneliness. - Untrustworthy
friends Loneliness: Sometimes, life can move in unexpected directions. It can
be slow at times and extremely fast. All you can do is just be a passenger.
Sometimes you may even doubt your own friends and lose your ability to confide
in them. When that happens it can be really hard because it gets lonely. - Quiet
Presence Loneliness: Its odd isn’t it, that someone who is quiet can affect
your life so much when they are gone? Do
you remember that person sitting in the corner while you were with your friends
at the other table? It could be anyone, right from a family member, a roommate,
a neighbour or just about anyone. - No-time-for-me
Loneliness: Life is all about meeting new people and making new friends, right?
However, sometimes it becomes really tough especially when the opposite person
is not open to move from the ‘just friendly’ to ‘friends’ part. It can make you
feel very lonely within as you can see all your other friends happy with their
friends but you cannot connect with others.
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2 Comments
I am going through every situation you mention. That made me think what i have to do now. Nice writing KARINA. 🙂
Thank you!! 🙂